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Will using a vibrator desensitize your clitoris, or will you become addicted to vibration? What if this giant vibrating orgasm machine enters my life and I no longer enjoy a partner?

That's why the vulva is reluctant or even afraid to use vibrators.

I'm here to bust the vibrator myth. Here are all the vibrator questions I've answered!

I'll keep my rants to a minimum because I want to give you concrete scientific answers to help you fall in love with your vibrator. After all, everyone deserves to have a nice, carefree orgasm.

Is vaginal death syndrome a thing?

In short: no.

If I were really picky (and I always have been), it would be called vulvar death syndrome. But that's okay, because it's not a real syndrome. However, it does give you an idea that this wrong term was coined by people who don't really understand vulvar and vaginal anatomy.

In many ways, dead vaginal syndrome is a terrible phrase. It gives a completely false impression. What happens to your genitals when you use a vibrator.

The vibrator stimulates your clitoris, G-spot, or wherever you choose to use it. Just like your fingers or a dildo, only stronger! So, if you use them for a long time, or have a very powerful vibrator, then you may experience tingling or numbness for a short time afterwards. In this way, the vibrator can cause a temporary loss of sensitivity.

However, this does not mean that your vibrator has caused you permanent nerve damage! Think of it like clapping your hands hard, or holding a power drill - your hands may tingle, numb or even ache for a few minutes, but will eventually return to normal. No one was hurt!

If you stimulate your clitoris with your fingers for more than an hour, or receive oral sex for an extended period of time (lucky you!) Something similar is likely to happen. Vibrators just speed up the process because they move much faster than we would like our fingers or tongue to move.

Of course, if your sense of loss or tingling doesn't go away, then it may indicate another problem. In this case, you should discuss it with a medical professional who can find out the real cause. Also, make sure you are using the vibrator safely. Using a broken toy in water, or a vibrator that isn't waterproof, is a recipe for disaster!

Will using a vibrator make it impossible for me to orgasm without it?

This is something many women worry about when using vibrators. There's a common belief that frequent vibrator use will make you completely dependent on it and unable to orgasm with your partner.

Fortunately, this is not the case. I have an experience of guessing why a lot of people believe this, because they only use a vibrator, get an orgasm at the end, then have PIV sex, and don't get an orgasm. It's easy to blame vibrators for your loss of sensitivity during sex. However, it is also possible that vibrators provide the necessary stimulation for orgasm that is not present during sex!

Studies have found that about 75 percent of vulva owners require some kind of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and penetration alone is not enough. Vibrators can be a simple and effective way to get the necessary clitoral stimulation. So, when you have sex without it, it feels like there's something missing. The solution? Use a vibrator when you have sex!

Dependence or habit?

The other part of the story is how we use vibrators, and whether we get into the bad habit of using them to orgasm.

Let me first clarify that there is nothing wrong or shameful about needing or wanting to vibrate to orgasm! Some of us just need a lot of intense stimulation, both clitoral and internal. If you prefer to use a vibrator alone or during sex, be my guest!

Vibrators aren't habit-forming on their own, and they won't stop you from reaching orgasm in other ways. However, you may find that because you're always using a vibrator, you're missing out on other ways to reach orgasm. Masturbating or having sex the same way over and over again is a habit that sometimes makes you feel great!

Learning how to be happy without a vibrator can be a challenge for some people. It takes patience and, in some cases, perseverance. A lot of things are in your head, too! I don't mean this in a dismissive way - often, the fear of not being able to orgasm without a vibrator can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more you explore yourself and your desires, the easier it will be to let go of this worry.