How to use a dildo
While some partners jump at the chance to join the vibrator, others may feel uneasy or intimidated by the buzzing light bulb. With some partners, you may not be sexually satisfied or even reject them as your lover. Communication is key! Talking about it in a positive and reassuring way can help your partner come to terms with the idea.
Here are my suggestions for introducing this idea to your partner:
- Assure your partner that you enjoy having sex with them. Vibrator is by no means a replacement -- just a helper!
- Explain the importance of clitoral stimulation. We're used to thinking that sex equals penetration, but this completely ignores the fact that most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Sharing this information is a great starting point for talking about using a vibrator during sex.
- Suggest they enjoy the extra feeling too! Depending on the type of vibrator, your partner can also enjoy additional stimulation. C-type vibrators are perfect because they can stimulate both of you at the same time -- everyone is a winner!
- Ask your partner to help you choose a vibrator that you both love and are comfortable using. Shopping for sex toys together can be fun and may even put you in the mood on the spot!
- Assure your partner that it's okay if they don't know how to use a vibrator on you - it'll be a fun learning process for both of you!
