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If you want to try to experience the mysterious shared orgasm, then you may need to put in some effort.

No matter how easy it looks in the movies, real life requires a little more thought and planning.

But that doesn't mean you have to take away all the pleasure and sensuality of orgasms!

Here are some ways to help you and your partner achieve orgasm:

Discuss in pairs.

Before you jump straight into sex, talk to your partner about your desire to have an orgasm at the same time. Would you both like to have a try? You can also talk about what excites both of you and what you can do to boost each other's happiness.

If you're reading this to have an orgasm at the same time as a one-night stand, then maybe you should think about why you're doing it in the first place. Sure, they can be great, but often an average orgasm is actually less important than giving both parties enough time to warm up and prepare for an amazing orgasm. You two may need different amounts of time, but that's okay!

Whoever takes the longest time sets the pace.

It's easier to slow down an orgasm than to speed it up. This means that the person who usually takes longer to reach orgasm, or whose orgasm is less reliable, should be the one setting the pace of sex. In heterosexual relationships, it's usually the female partner, but not always!

To avoid rushing or stress, let your partner decide when foreplay should transition to intrusive behavior, how fast or slow, when to switch places, etc. Of course, if the other partner feels close to orgasm, they have to speak up and let things calm down for a while - which is why communication during intercourse is important.

Use of sex toys

This may not surprise you, but in bed Bible, we love sex toys! Not only are they ideal partners for single sex, they're also one of the best ways to close the male-female orgasm gap.

One of the biggest problems women face during sex is the lack of stimulation of the clitoris. If you often feel like you lack enough stimulation during sex, especially penetrative sex, invest in a good sex toy that can provide you with that stimulation. It could be a super rumbling bullet vibrator, a powerful clitoral sucker, a small hands-free vibrator that works for you, or even a C-type vibrator that you can enjoy!

Switch position

Try some new and exciting poses without putting your legs behind your head! We're all different, and it might take you a long time (or too short!) One reason to orgasm is that the position is not right for you. You can also try using a sex pillow or a sex wedge to adjust the Angle of the position you're using, which can promote better G-spot contact during sex.

Try masturbating together.

Sometimes it's hard to orgasm at the same time during sex because you can't completely control your excitement. One of the easiest ways to ensure that you orgasm at the same time is to take your pleasure into your own hands and masturbate together. It doesn't have to be personal -- kiss and touch each other as you walk, and notice your partner's rhythm to see when you're approaching orgasm.

Don't focus on the orgasm.

Finally, even if you don't have orgasms at the same time, it doesn't mean the sex is bad! A quick way to poison your enjoyment of sex is to focus only on orgasms together, so try not to make it the only star of the show. If it happens, it's good, and if it doesn't, it should be good.

Of course, don't feel bad if it doesn't happen. Don't hold a grudge or try to blame anyone.

Are orgasms really better at the same time?

In my opinion, it is neither good nor bad.

Orgasm with your partner is a very intimate thing. The two of you find it very special to be so in sync with each other and to have such strong positive emotions and feelings at the same time. Not to mention the crazy sexy sounds you two make together!

At the same time, orgasm is not only physically exciting, but also mentally, emotionally and even spiritually exciting. But, that doesn't mean they're not all about sex! There are some problems with sharing orgasms. There are some things they can't provide.

See your partner orgasm.

At the same time, one downside of orgasms is that you may be too caught up in your own pleasure to actually experience your partner's orgasm. There's something sexy about watching your partner orgasm, especially if you're the one who made it happen! Their faces, their movements, the sounds they make -- all of which you might miss if you're too caught up in the orgasm to notice.

One thing to remember is that it's not a good feeling to always be the first or last person to orgasm. Try to vary the order in which you orgasm to keep things fresh and fair to everyone.

Too much focus on time

Trying to climax together will put a lot of pressure on both of you to climax at the right time. This means trying to avoid arriving at your destination too early or too late.

If one of you often takes a long time to orgasm, the other has to wait for you. Conversely, if your partner tends to orgasm quickly, then the other partner may feel a lot of pressure to orgasm quickly as well. This is often a recipe for intense, unfulfilled sexy times - it's not the transcendental orgasmic experience you want.

Orgasms are not the only value of sex

It's a good idea to try to divert attention away from the "end" of sex. Instead, try to explore the feelings and pleasure you experience during sex. Follow your natural rhythm - your rhythm may fluctuate up and down as you try different things together, so listen to your body to figure out what works best for you. This may have the added benefit of making sex last longer!