Sex toys

So, you want to start using sex toys. Congratulations to you! Choosing a vibrator for the first time can seem like a daunting task - for example, how do you know what style and speed you prefer? It can also be a substantial investment, with some stick vibrators costing well over $100.

Now, if you're in isolation, you might feel even scarier. You can't just pop into your local sex toy store or baby playground, get their expert opinion, and see your options for yourself.

However, we're here to make it easy for you to choose your first vibrator. When it comes to optimal sex, there are a few things you should consider about your sexual health and preferences before you press the "buy" button.

Four questions any woman should answer before buying her first vibrator or sex toy

1. How do you masturbate?

Women tend to masturbate in many different positions -- most women masturbate on their backs. But many people like to lie on their side, even on their stomach. If you prefer any position other than your back, you should take that into account when choosing a toy. Many stick vibrators are inflexible, which means you can have a hard time using them in some locations. Choose a soft silicone vibrator that can be easily used on the belly or side.

2. How important is clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation? What kind of orgasm are you looking for?

What kind of orgasm do you prefer? If you've never masturbated before, now's the time to start. Try to determine how important internal stimulation is to your orgasm. If it's high, consider a G-spot vibrator. If you mostly masturbate outside, use a clitoral vibrator.

3. How important is judgment?

How much privacy do you have in your home? If your answer is "not much." You may prefer a quiet vibrator so that passersby don't hear the buzz when you have sex alone.

Today, there are many sex toys available in smaller shapes and sizes on the market.

4. Who do you use this with?

If it's a gift from a person, you can buy whatever you want.

If you buy vibrators for heterosexual sex with your partner, there are vibrators specifically made for this purpose. But we found that "couple vibrators" designed for sex are too picky for first-time lovers. When you first start using sex toys, it becomes very complicated. You should stick with the more basic stick vibrator so you can focus on what's important -- how great you feel.

If you're looking to buy a vibrator and allow yourself (as a person with a vagina) to have sex with another person with a vagina, there are some unique options, such as double dildos, that you might want to check out. However, again, until you have more experience with sex toys, it may be easier to stick to the basics (stick vibrators).