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One reason some couples have sex early in the relationship is that they want to know if they are sexually compatible. Sex is an important part of most, but not all, relationships. So when your partner doesn't talk on the phone in bed, it's often seen as a red flag.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with wanting to establish sexual compatibility at the beginning of a relationship. This can certainly be beneficial, especially if you have completely different and non-overlapping sexual interests. However, in doing so, people tend to make a common mistake, which is to think that once compatibility is established, it can be well compatible with life. In other words, if you start having great, exciting sex, you're going to keep having great, exciting sex, right?

That's why this idea is wrong.

First of all, in the early stages of a relationship, people are in the throes of passion. Sex is exciting only because it is new to everyone. Plus, those feelings of passion make it all the more intense. So, when you're passionate and not too interested, you're pretty easy to get along with.

However, passion is often short-lived -- it's usually measured over months or years. But that doesn't mean the passion has to go away. It just takes some effort to sustain. That's why introducing something new is crucial to keeping your passion alive. Constantly trying new and different things in bed (or wherever you like to have sex) is a great way to stay excited.

Given this, it's important to ask yourself more than simply, "Is your sex life good?" You should also ask your partner if they are willing and willing to try new things. If they don't want to disturb your bedroom life, at least for a while, it could be a sign that it's harder to keep the spark alive once the initial passion starts to wear off.

Second, sexual needs change throughout life. I've written before, for example, that our sexual fantasies seem to change as we age -- sometimes in different ways for different people. So what excites you now may not excite you in 10, 20, 30 years. So is your partner.

Similarly, when it comes to sex, what feels good and enjoyable (and what is physically possible, practical, and comfortable) can change over time due to age-related changes in the body, chronic illness or disability, and other factors. What people want from sex (such as physical release and emotional intimacy) also changes.

For this reason, it's important to avoid seeing sexual compatibility as a one-time thing and never look back. In other words, you don't set it up and forget it. So forget about establishing sexual compatibility. It's about sexual compatibility.

This means that partners should regularly check in on each other's sex lives. Do you want something different? Do you want to have a different sex life? Have your fantasies changed? Does something that once made you feel good no longer fit you?

It takes a little bit of effort and constant dialogue to make a lasting relationship work. It's not something you set up and forget. The sooner you start being compatible, the faster you'll reap the benefits and keep your passion alive.