Sex vibrator
Regardless of your preference, there are some basic and universal standard recommendations for a good vibrator: safe, well-designed, and comfortable.This article from the British Association for Sex and Relationship Therapy highlights an established set of criteria for choosing a vibrator, including safety, comfort and versatility. Their common criteria include:
The shape allows penetration if required.
The size of the length and perimeter may be safe, comfortable and pleasant for an individual/couple.
Non-porous materials (silica gel, hard plastic, glass).
If you plan to use it in a shower or bathtub, make sure it is waterproof.
Easy to clean (e.g., few cracks).
Plug-in vibrators should keep the cell cell out of the hole, if in the hole, should be firmly fixed.
Following these basic rules won't necessarily help you find the right toy for you any faster, but it will keep you from any problems, complications, injuries or other negative experiences that might make you lose interest in your toy.
Find your best vibrator
There are many ways to enjoy sexual stimulation with a woman -- with or without a partner -- even if the world's greatest engineers get together on an unlimited budget; Every woman will like and need something slightly different.
The best advice we can give you is to take risks. Try something that excites you -- follow the little thrills. Experimentation is good for you because it's a positive way to find a good sex toy.
That article we've been talking about? It shares an additional core of wisdom: if you feel good about using a toy, it's much easier to find a feel-good toy. "Women who are more positive about vibrator use may benefit more from vibrator use. Conversely, those who feel negative about vibrator use may not be candidates for vibrator therapy."
There's no reason to internalize shame (which you really do) when seeking some kind of deserved happiness. We can't tell you what's right for you, we can only tell you that finding it is the success you deserve.